Have you come across people who are not what they seem to be-like someone who is extremely friendly and helpful yet you are not very comfortable with him/her as

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Notice that sometimes in a relationship there is a little bumpy road for us to cross, and that is surely inevitable. That's okay, that's what makes relationships beautifully hard-won. We can't expect relationships to grow by themselves smoothly and seamlessly.

We all do have come across those kind of people where we just can't feel comfortable with and we feel like we're not getting along very well with them. Even if they seem friendly and helpful, we tend to conclude that this person still isn't what he/she seems to be.

The truth is that, psychologically, we can't just get along with all kind of people with personalities that we cannot just tolerate. We also need time to build the trust and understand those people's personalities. Therefore, we cannot force ourselves to immediately like those person.

You need to be truthful enough to identify what kind of thing that you don't like the most about this person, common problems such as :

- Are they too caring, or do they tend to put their attention on you while you need some time alone?

- Do they usually do something you don't like?

- Do they tend to assist you when you want to do something on your own?

- Did they say something fine that you find it somehow offensive and intolerable?

- Do they tend to make you uncomfortable by looking at you with an unusual gaze?

- Do they have something that you basically don't approve?

- Are they too nice?

You also can identify why do you feel such things :

- You need time to build understanding/trust towards those people
- You can't tolerate their behavior
- You need space
- You forced yourself to quickly understand this person
- You didn't communicate your thoughts to them
- etc.

Hope I helped!